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My Landslide of Grief

There are times when you suffer many losses during a short amount of time. Usually the losses are similar to the ones listed. Not often do you experience the death of significant people in a short amount of time. It does happen, but not often.

It is a series like this that people will state that they “haven’t recovered” from all those close deaths. You could meet someone ten years later and they will still mention this series of deaths that they were unable to get through. You realize that the pain is still causing them emotional distress. This mountain of grief is difficult to manage for any person. Ideally, they could process the loss of one person at a time until they have resolved a major portion of their overall grief. Most people won’t do this. They will continue to look at the entire group of losses and remain unable to recover emotionally.

We have stated many times that no event is intended to undo you. Each event is a lesson. You needed to learn a variety of things from one loss and then be prepared for any future losses. The culmination was meant to be lessons learned not a pile of grief added to the current pile.

I have experienced a lot of grief in the past three months. My family had to euthanize a guinea pig after struggling to heal him from a tumor removal. We made the decision to end his suffering but our grief was monumental. He was very much a part of the family.

Then I lost a dear aunt after a short illness. It was expected but still painful. We lost her sister only 1 year ago. So this is a good example of layering. Recently, our hamster died. We struggled to care for him but we could not save him from illness.

We have lost several community members in close procession. People I knew and people I knew of. Many younger than you would expect. We had one mother lose three sons within a year. One in his late 30’s from a medical problem, one in his late 20’s from an overdose and the most recent one in his early 30’s of an overdose.

Then, of those community members, I lost a male cousin who was only 55 to a massive heart attack. He was only 2 years older than me and this was completely unexpected. His brother is currently in the late stages of lung cancer and will die soon at the age of 53. So that will be two deaths in one family within a month. Both far too young.

We have lost nearly 10 people in our small reservation community in the past 3 months.  With 2 more quickly approaching death.

I’m at a loss for words. I haven’t posted for a while because of this mind-numbing trend. Perhaps I don’t yet embrace the lessons that were intended. Maybe I am not listening. Perhaps I don’t have an open-mind.

I work with many people who have lost someone. It is almost too numerous to mention. But what is our lesson? What do we need to learn as a community?

Two died of overdoses so this obviously speaks to drug awareness, prevention and intervention. Many died from complications of Diabetes. This is something that any native community deals with. The people who died of heart disease may also be attributed to Diabetes. Then two people died of cirrhosis. With lifelong alcohol abuse, their bodies shut down and they succumbed. We also have a higher rate of alcoholism so complications are common in our community.

No one remembers a time when we have suffered so many losses this close together. When I ask spirit, “why?” I get one word, “renewal.”  If you lived here, knew the members of this community and suffered this many losses close together, what does renewal mean? No one has found the answer, including me.

I will keep searching. My impression is that I don’t have enough distance from the pain yet. With some amount of healing I will listen and learn what renewal means and how this happens in my own community. I will hear more words from spirit and will resist shutting down in exasperation. I will find some solace and allow my heart to heal.

This is why I am here. I am a messenger but for now I don’t really know what the message is.

I have faith. I understand there are intended lessons. I understand that we are meant to be brought close together without any boundaries between us. We have all been touched by drug, alcohol, medical and accidental deaths. Some losses were expected and others were not. Sometimes death does not just touch the elderly.

There are times when a loss happens and you have time to find your faith and get through it. There are other times when losses happen so close together that coping simply means getting through one day at a time.

We will find out what renewal means and we will do it together. You may be able to place your finger on the truth now while I am still simply trying to manage. The messenger has some learning to do.

Sympathy and Empathy

People often ask how to be a better person? It is always a simple answer. If you look at the behavior, thinking and intentions of anyone you may see that they are basically positive or negative. This may be easier for you to decide about other people since you would tend to be objective. If you are asked about your own overall wellness and positivity, you would tend to split hairs, justify certain behavior and make excuses. You would be offended by someone’s quick assertions about you.

Basically, if you do good things and have a positive attitude, you are a good person. If you harm people intentionally, steal, lie, manipulate and live without sympathy/empathy for anyone, you are a bad person. Any action may be assessed in this manner. It is much like a judge in a court of law. This person will accept descriptions, facts, information and testimony then make a determination. This is also how the Universe decides what your energy vibration is. Just the facts.

What does your behavior say about you without any excuses or explanations?

This is a difficult way to look at you. In your current world you have a list of reasons and explanations for your behavior. You are depressed, you are reacting to something, you are getting back at someone, you are jealous, you have trauma in your past… There are so many layers for why you act, feel and behave in a certain way.

If you are happy, well-adjusted, flexible and self-determined you rarely act out against others. You may have thoughts of vengeance but why would you go through with it when everything is good in your life? Your own flexibility takes over and you move on to much more interesting and positive things. The people who seek vengeance and actively sabotage people in their lives usually have a lower vibration. They are dark. They see no benefit to responding to stress in a positive manner. They move from one conflict to another and try to get the better of anyone who they feel is in their way or have spoken out or acted out against them.

Their darkness varies. Some people are very dark and evil. Other people are grey, darker grey or intermittently dark. You have been in contact with truly evil people. They make you cringe and you go the other way ASAP. You get a creepy feeling and perhaps your skin feels like it is crawling. Some are described as having dead eyes. You see no emotion or feeling in their gaze. Or, they may look right through you.

What you may not actually know is where you are on the continuum of energy vibration. Are you mostly good or mostly bad? Making an assessment about your own behavior will be difficult because of your explanations and justifications. Make your best effort to decide where you stand on a scale of 1- 10.

Be honest and then go about raising your vibration. No excuses, explanations or justifications. Simply good behavior or bad behavior. Be a nice, supportive and friendly person. View your actions alone. You don’t get this yet, we know. Why would we negate all of your past experiences in reference to how you interact with the world today? Because you are an adult and you must overcome adversity and find goodness in yourself and others.

This is also how we answer the damnation question. If you are a higher vibration person, you cross over and dwell in the upper 5 levels of the Afterlife. Those who have a lower vibration cross over and find themselves in the lower 2 levels.

Why would you knowingly behave in ways where you may end up in the lower levels? The extensive list of questions about how to get away with as much as possible and still not go to Hell was eye opening. It seemed like a very childlike agenda. Can I cheat on my spouse if they deserve it? If my mom did not properly care for me as a child do I have to take care of her now that she is older and sickly? Is harming someone in the name of religion still wrong? Again, look at the action and not the backstory. Harming others, stealing money, lying, cheating, violence… is never OK. If you cannot get past what has occurred between you and the other person than the only thing you can do is walk away. Do no harm and seek no vengeance. This action will increase your vibration.

It is the acting out in harmful ways that lowers your vibration. It is best to not have the darker thoughts as well but the important thing is to not act upon them. Then, work on yourself every day to resist having the darker thoughts as well. Have you noticed that we did not take into account the layers of why, who and what? It is the thoughts and actions, not the backstory.

Enter the concepts of sympathy and empathy. These considerations are for others, not you. Rate your own actions according to how you influence or impair another. If you have no need for sympathy and empathy, then your path is much longer. If you are able to embrace your potential influence upon others, you are much closer to a resolution.

Meet all of your darker thinking and overcome them. Being an independent adult who is self-directed means that you are accountable for your thoughts and actions. You may have been seriously harmed yet God expects you to overcome and offer the Universe love and forgiveness. You are absolved for your sins as well. This is a global event. Everyone is eligible for absolution unless you are dark and treat others with dark thoughts, behaviors and actions.

It is very simple. There is no ambiguity. Your vibration determines your life experience and where you cross over to in the afterlife.

Working Toward Your True Life

The thought of spending years of your life not on your path is startling to some. Others…not so much. People have said that if you question whether you are on your path or not means that you are. Basically, if you were not spiritually aware that you actually have a life chart you would not know to question if you are on it. Your awareness is a big key to your spiritual development. Many people are blissfully unaware that there are very real goals to each life.

You have spent many lives in varying states of existence. In some you were wealthy, business oriented, a medical practitioner, a religious leader… Then in some lives you were addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, abusive, manipulative, a bad parent, a thief, a murderer… Each of those lives had a set list of goals to be experienced and learned from. You were in life to teach others by example or by contrast. Then, after returning “home” you formulated another life or lifetimes in which to learn the goals that you left undone or to pick up where you are on the list of life goals that you already have established. Each life is lived to learn a complete set of experiences from positive or negative influences. You have not had only “bad” or “good” lives. You have had both types in varying degrees.

So, the fact that you wonder about being on your path is awesome. In this life you have experienced and learned to a point where you believe in God and understand that there are “guides” in life. You don’t have to see someone to know that they are helping you. All of these are leaps of faith. This is good. You have arrived here, on this site, to seek answers for your spiritual questions. We have arrived, on this site, to give you those answers. You are able to accept our truth by hearing, contemplating and accepting it or not. Some of it resonates with you now and some of it will resonate with you at another time in life.

Our hope is to give you information that you are able to understand and accept. There are a wide variety of topics to review and We try our best to respond to your current life questions.

Our current topic is your life chart, life purpose or path. Sadly, many of you avoid your path because it is challenging, emotionally painful or difficult to understand. This is a list of suggestions for you to help narrow down and understand your current life goals. Please refer to this list at different times because your goals now will not be your goals in 2 years. These suggestions, however, will be still relevant in helping you to discover your goals at any time.

  1. If asked, what is the most painful aspect of your life? This may be emotional or physical. This is the most important issue to address.
  2. Is your inner dialog positive and motivational or despondent and negative?
  3. List all of your emotions and thoughts about this one topic. Begin to respond to this concern with a positive perspective and uplifting inner dialog. Perhaps post your list in an area where it will remind you to always take the high road.
  4. Do some research and discover if the world already has solved this problem. If this is medical, what are the most effective treatments? If this is emotional, what is the process other people have taken to recover?
  5. List the steps to treatment or the steps taken to cope and work through them. Be open-minded and truly give each step a good chance to work. Use trusted medical professionals or behavioral counselors if necessary. You may need professional help for an accurate diagnosis.
  6. Include God and the Divine in your process. Understand that you have an advantage if others who have suffered similar problems did not believe in God or another higher power.
  7. Write or remember some daily prayers. Include what you are dealing with and your desire for Divine help. Do not tell your guides or God exactly how to help you. Leave it up to them and understand that by giving specific instructions you will render your Divine help useless.
  8. Resolving emotional concerns is a process. Over time you may find a better perspective. Addressing this issue may carry less pain each time you revisit your list. Allow this healing to occur. There are no good reasons to cling to issues that have caused you emotional pain. Learn the lessons intended and move on. You may forgive but still be cautious when dealing with this same issue in the future.
  9. Understand that it is essential to blend Western Medicine, Eastern Medicine and Earth-based healing with spirituality.It is not recommended that you address your concerns with prayer and faith alone. Even God works through the hands of doctors and other health care professionals.
  10. Understand that God and your other helpers are unable to handle everything for you. There are many obstacles which may be removed through prayer or just by asking. But, the learning is actually yours to complete. You may however ask for increased insight, understanding and improved coping skills in order to assist you.

Please remember not to take back control over your issues at hand. Once you have done this, God, angels, saints and spirit guides will be left unable to help. Faith is literally having faith. Not faith up to a point. Do your part. See a counselor, doctor, energy healer… and then give it to God.

Each concern on your list may be addressed in this manner. Once you have resolved some of the bigger challenges in life, you will have more freedom to find your path. You will decrease the distractions until you have enough faith and perspective to be grounded to your life chart.

Stay away from materialistic goals. These are of little consequence unless you volunteer, give to charity, help those less fortunate and sponsor proactive changes in your family, neighborhood and community. There is a place for money and it is to offer aid to those who have very little or none.

Progress

What do We call progress? Spiritual advancement, growth and enlightenment.

You are not here to chase the dollar or be super skinny and model-like beautiful. Sometimes spiritual achievement gets lost in all of your daily wishes and desires.

It is good to do what you love to earn money but money is not the goal. Earn enough to have a positive, healthy existence then venture forward into more spiritual matters. It is like setting aside your everyday pursuits to be mindful, grounded and open to God. Prayer and meditation could be done 2 or 3 times a day.

Some people love to connect with God and spirit first thing in the morning or at bedtime. Please consider both of these times and at one other point in your day.

A good time would be during a natural or planned break. Perhaps after you’ve eaten lunch and before you must resume work. Or, just before dinner. Try to stick with a routine. Regular prayer and meditation balanced throughout your day will help to keep stress to a minimum. Don’t skip these mindful times because that is exactly when stress will accumulate and your physical and emotional defenses will be compromised.

Keeping in touch with God and spirit will also help to keep you up to date on your chart and goals. If you meditate only on Sunday, so much advise and redirection will have already passed you by. Daily updates are optimal.

You’ll also find that spirit will be able to contact you more easily. So many of your ego defenses will be minimized by daily mindfulness. It is likened to exercise. If you exercise every other day you’ll be in better shape than if you exercise every five days. You’ll experience more inflexibility and fatigue by waiting too long between activity.

Protection exercises must also be done prior to each time of meditation. You are opening up your mind, body and spirit to outside energy. You want to commune with God, guides and departed loved ones not ghosts. There are many different ones to choose from. Perhaps a wall of outward facing mirrors, a protective vortex of healing and loving light, outward facing animal guides stationed in four directions, a cocoon of angel wings or envisioning intense White Light in an egg, net or robe. Scatter and diffuse all grey or dark areas and refill with this light. Ask your guides to deny all ghosts or lower energies during your time of prayer or meditation. Give permission for them to act on your behalf. You will want to keep up this protection throughout your day.

Ghosts are meddling, drama filled attention seekers. If you hear anything that is overly emotional or scary, it is not spirit. Your true guides will give you information matter-of-factly. Nothing emotional. They tell it like it is and will not intentionally scare you. You may hear something from spirit but then you add your own fear, drama or emotion. This happens very often. Just do your best to remember the feeling you had when you were given the message not the hype that you may have created.

One example may be when spirit lets you know to check your tires. It was mentioned very low-key and emotionless. You allow yourself to become shaken up. You then start to believe that you’re headed for an accident, your tire will blow at 65 miles an hour, you’ll total you car! No! Stop yourself from spiraling this out of control. It may be a slow leak. Maybe you’ll pull up too far into a parking space. Maybe it is your friend’s tire and she lets you know she got a flat on her way home from work. Stay grounded and resist drama. Spirit did not apply any of your emotion to the message they gave to you.

Remain focused upon your connection with God. Resist the urge to wander into materialistic and ego-based directions. Remember what your life goals likely are. A daily connection to God and spirit will work best to realign or keep you aligned with your life chart. Do not open yourself to ghosts! Remaining in the Light and routinely flushing out any grey or dark energy will help. Bright colors are best. Envision your energy as crystal clear and fluid. Spend time cleansing and clearing chakras. Imagine that you glow with light and positive energy.

“Come to Me every day and allow Me to know you well. We have many more roads to travel and it would be best to start very soon. I am in the stillness of your mind and soul. We will connect in this arena and good things will come of it. Know and love Me as well as I know and love you. Amen.” God