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What Do I Know?

I am working on a lot of self-discovery and have had a giant boost in energy, intuition and spiritual growth. I am nearing the end of this life phase and will start another one. I just don’t know when. Spirit may say “soon” and it happens 3 years later! That is the problem with psychic readings or direction from spirit. Their timeline and ours are very different.

As a psychic I have learned to ask for more specific information like month, season or even year. I had a psychic reading perhaps 5 years ago and I asked her when I would receive something very specific. She answered “August.” Naturally I thought it was August 5 years ago. It wasn’t. This event seems to be starting now. So I could have asked, “August of what year?” Try to remember when you are given information from spirit that you may need some additional information.

When I speak of people charting 1/3 of their life with difficult lessons and turmoil, I speak from experience. My childhood was very difficult and I still don’t openly discuss what I went through even with my own children. But, my childhood was tragic up to the age of 18 or 19. Then, as an adult (more or less) the tragedy was part my own doing and part abusive marriage. As I aged I did ask spirit for the meaning of my childhood situations and that is when they told me about the common 1/3 tendency.  Part of what you read on this site is me and most of it is spirit over the years. I would never author this blog on my own. I am a conduit, not a spiritual leader!

In my own life my childhood was wrought with trauma and difficult situations. My young adulthood I began to learn that those harsh lessons were meant to teach me something. My marriage taught me too many difficult lessons about abuse, self-worth, parenthood, consequences… Then, I started my actual learning phase. I found God, began to pray and understood that I had charted this life in order to learn some specific lessons. What I struggled to learn, I could help to teach others in similar situations.

Thankfully, I am beyond my 1/3 of trouble. This next phase is something better and coming from a vastly different perspective. My connection to spirit is very good. My ability to “read” other people has improved immensely. My willingness to step forward and help those around is still not enough, this I know. I tend to avoid turmoil if I can. My ability to accept direction from spirit is awesome. I am given dialog, charts, graphs, timelines, agendas, song lyrics, life stories spoken as fairy tales… I have no doubt that my ability to comprehend and share spirit guidance is pretty good.

We have been told in the past that your greatest teachers are perhaps those who have harmed you the most. This is true in my life. My mother and ex-husband taught me volumes of learning and knowledge. Each sibling has come with a different set of lessons. Aunts, uncles, cousins and community members have taught me some important things as well. This is so important for you to understand. Yes, it hurts, but what is the purpose for what you have experienced? What are important are the lessons. Even if you have to write things down to figure out what the purpose was, get something positive out of everything that you go through. Always be willing to learn.

I have continued to learn from my parents even beyond their death. That is one benefit of being psychic. They have each changed so much after leaving this life. It will bring me to tears. I am on better terms with each of them now. This is a blessing. They want me to share information with my siblings or other family members but I tend to avoid these expectations. Why? Because I think they will focus on me and not the message. Who am I? What do I know? Keep this to yourself!

As a physic, it takes a while before people are ready to accept that information, guidance and direction are not coming from me. I get a lot of anger because I don’t mince words. Spirit is direct and so am I. This may hurt your feelings, and it usually does. I believe that my duty is to give you all of the information that spirit wishes you to know. If I start editing or paraphrasing, I am doing you a disservice. So imagine how interesting a spirit-guided visit would be for one of my siblings. Yikes. I am the youngest of 8. No one wants to hear my mouth even though I am in my 50’s and have changed a lot. A drop by reading is never good.

Please take the information provided by spirit with an open mind and an eagerness to learn. If your life were nothing but kisses and flowers, there may be less emotional pain but how often is that? Get a recording or write it down. Review it from time to time to time and be objective. I have had people offended when they receive the reading and then truly grateful after a year. This is common. The truth hurts. Sorry.

Always be sure whether you are getting actual spirit information or if the psychic is giving you advice or somehow altering the message. I stopped seeing a psychic because I was getting her own advice! This is not what a reading is for. If someone is genuine they may give you the factual information then expand upon it if you have questions. But ALL of the information is from spirit or other Divine beings.

Remove the emotion from what you have heard and set about discovering the lessons.

If you hear voices and are not psychotic, be careful who you think that they are. It is usually your self-talk but it could be something more troublesome. I find I hear inauthentic voices often. By being psychic, spirit is drawn to me. I shine like a beacon. Earthbound spirits may dwell in my space in order to soak up my energy or provide me with false information. I call it debris. I am able to pray and ask for the debris to be blocked, meditate and seek my higher guides to block it or envision blocks myself using energy and light. I still get caught unaware so I can imagine it may be easy for you to get derailed.

This is where the advice comes from about information being upsetting. If it is not matter-of-fact, it is not genuine. This is one of the more difficult situations to comb through.

“The voice sounds just like my uncle.” A ghost will flip through the files in your brain and represent themselves as your uncle. They may provide the smell of cologne, whiskey and breath mints but it still isn’t your uncle. Our own minds are very creative. This discernment takes time. As I have said, even after 15 years I still get debris. It is constant.

Often I get a voice that either tells me what I want to hear or taps into what I want or need just to cause me emotional pain. This could be my own ego voice which will cause upset intentionally or debris. The best way to discern where the voice is coming from is through my God Center, being grounded and full of Light. If I touch my fingers to me God Center, I get a sense of truth about it and I am able to either quiet my ego voice or banish the debris. This is a great way to double check the origin of a lot of different energy.

Usually in a reading, spirit will say something about an object, event or situation that is current. This is to let you know that they are in your life at present. They like the new paint in the kitchen, your new hairstyle or congratulations on your son’s wedding. This lets you know they are near you and share in the special events of your life or perhaps some upsetting moments as well.

Be careful taking advice from spirit. They may have crossed over but they still offer some bad advice. Spirit will retain their usual prejudices, paranoia or preferences. Don’t take financial advice from a loved one who died heavily in debt. Just because they are on the Other Side does not make them experts.

You may receive wonderful information about your health and well-being as long as the details come from a genuine source. Be cautious and double check where the information is coming from.

I get information about car accidents, illnesses, injuries, presidential elections, and the gender of unborn babies… Do I always pass along this information? No. There is a purpose to each event. I had become aware that my nephew would total his new truck. I was told when, where, the circumstances of his loss of control of the vehicle and that he would not be seriously harmed. I did not inform him or my sister. He needed to learn about speeding, winter road conditions and driving under the influence of alcohol. He learned those lessons without me.

Sometimes I will pass information along but this is usually to people know where this information comes from and are open to psychic/mediums. I am not the psychic that will walk up to you in the supermarket and tell you to get to the Dr. This isn’t me.

If you want that type of information, make sure that the psychic knows. If you don’t get the information it is because you can’t do anything about it. Nothing would be influenced if you were to know. It is that simple. Someone isn’t a bad psychic if they don’t have all the information.

This is some gentle information about psychics, spirit guides, hearing voices and getting accurate information. It is truly a blend of me and spirit. I find that the more I love you and others, the better and more accurate the information is that I am provided. If I was trying to make a million dollars, I would be acting from ego and the details would be wholly untrue and possibly inflammatory. Not matter-of-fact.

I will be sure to let you know when my new life phase starts. Now that I know it is August of 2017! It has been a wild ride but you will know what I know. I have done the work and have tools that you may not. Thank you for being here.

 

 

The Blessed Journey Within

Finding God does not take a trip of a thousand footsteps. You merely have to look inside to find HIM.

Why do you feel that faith is something that you find somewhere? Your soul has all of the necessary information on God and life that you will ever need. Looking outside of yourself may be a deterrent to finding those “truths” that you know exist.

You don’t live life inside of yourself. This would accomplish nothing. You must balance what happens around you and what is in your soul. To initially find your faith you must touch upon it where it resides in your God Center. This is in your solar plexus or the area behind the tip of your sternum.

Often advice comes suggesting you follow your heart or what you have determined to be factual in your mind. These two energy centers may not give you the most accurate information. Emotions cloud much of the information that spirit may provide to you. It is this fact that skews your guidance.

Emotions will keep you actively involved in negative loops of thinking and behavior. If you are in an abusive relationship will you leave and get safe if you follow your heart? No. You will likely stay because you love that person. You love them enough to keep forgiving them over and over again. What does your mind say about this? Whatever you choose to tell yourself. Your self-talk may be keeping you in this relationship as well. “I love him, he will change, and she made a promise this time… I know she will change for me.” Either your heart or your mind has not provided you with truthful information.

You will be chasing emotions for the rest of your life but this will not get you anywhere. The truth is in your God Center. Touch your fingers to the lower portion of your sternum. Be still and meditative if possible. Find that truth that is there. To know you have successfully made a connection to your true self you will feel a sense of calm and knowing.

This knowledge is based in truth so there is no emotion attached to it. This is also a good state to be mindful. In this inner connection you find truth and stability that you may have not known before. Emotion makes you run here or there, become upset with what is and mood swings from euphoria to desolation. This is not spiritual health. This is being a slave to your emotions.

Have you found that you haven’t made any real progress by following your emotions? If you make decisions by what mood you are in, there is no authentic motivation. These decisions may leave you feeling empty, lost or alone. You may also feel like you never get ahead. It may be like climbing a mountain of fine sand. You have images of never reaching the top.

Your chart is in your God Center. Your guides and God are there too.

If you find your mind whirls with chatter, who are you actually listening to? Most of the time it is your own inner voice. Occasionally it is a guide or other Divine being. Sometimes it is a ghost or earthbound spirit who offers you useless or upsetting information. There are darker beings that may invade your mind but that would take a skilled seer to discover this. NEVER go to someone who has no training or background in dealing with attachments or nefarious spirits. This will only deepen your struggles.

Information given to you that is frightening is not a spirit guide. Genuine guidance from spirit guides is matter-of-fact. They are verbally blunt and expressionless. This emotionless exchange is true. You always have to remember how you felt the moment you received the information. Why? Because you will add emotion, fear, excitement, dread, hopelessness… It may be helpful to write it down so when your mind or heart begins to add layers of nonsensical information you may reconnect with how you felt when you originally became aware of the information. Weed out the mind/heart interference and remember what the genuine message was.

Receiving genuine guidance may not make you very popular. You tend to become matter-of-fact as well. Things make sense and seem obvious. You have a direct line to what your intuition states from this life and perhaps a few others. This unquestionable “knowing” may irritate those you deal with. They may feel that you are uncaring or a know-it-all. They may also mistake your mental strength and stability as some type of personality disorder. You really want people to know that you love them and offer support, care and nurturing. You are not an emotionless robot so do not present yourself as one. This is one caveat. Remember to offer love and support because when others are still dealing from their heart or mind they will not comprehend your God Center directness. Find truth but remember how to love.

Have you known spiritual leaders to seem arrogant or lofty? This is that caveat that we make reference to. You may have profound faith and dedication to God but still seem unapproachable or distant. This really doesn’t help you or anyone else. Life does not occur in a vacuum. You need information from within AND still participate in life. This is one of your life goals.

To be lofty and above all others will make your soul group connections diminish. You will seem to travel in isolation. You may only communicate with others who have your same lofty beliefs. Then what good are you doing for your loved ones, family and community? Be a real person with a direct connection to God. Remain humble and stay connected to loved ones. Be aware that they are still dealing in terms that you have found to be ineffective and obsolete. They still deserve your love and attention. If they cannot deal with you on your spiritual level then choose to send them angels, pray for their well-being and jump in with help where and when you can.

Don’t be a silo in a world of too many silos. Use your knowledge and awareness to help everyone along. Send love, hope and healing to all others. You are not going to break bread with them or allow them to live in your guest room but a thoughtful prayer and blessing is awesome. There are struggles throughout this world. Send something positive to these places or situations. Many spiritual beings will offer that LOVE is always the answer. Embrace this and see where it takes you.

Love is truly in your God Center. Self-love, love of others and love for all Creation does not just reside in your heart. The entirety of “your” truth is in your God Center and real life will flow from there.

A Desert Period

There are times in life when not much happens. There may be a lull in emotional events and fairly reasonable success in all other areas of your life. There are desert periods charted for various reasons. It may be a time of learning where you read books, attend groups, take some courses, focus on your family and friends, set some goals, relax… There are some specific purposes for these periods. Normally, you would recognize when the desert period ends because life would seem to start up again and bring you more challenges to respond to.

These are some expected desert periods. Then, there are desert periods that you create by bowing out of life or being in denial. This would be a type of self-isolation or self-defense. This type is not charted and does not promote healthy coping, learning or relationships. You are simply ignoring life.

You felt some joy and relief that you could skip some of your charted experiences. You missed the point. Skipping experiences that are definitely below your current energy vibration is allowed. Yes you may skip negative events, behavior and relationships and there may be actual desert periods to account for the lack of activity…BUT… you cannot just skip out on life.

Life was intended to be difficult. That is what you embraced. Now, you may feel that some things are too negative or cumbersome to manage and you want to opt out. This was not intended. The more complexity you charted, the higher evolved that you are spiritually.

You would not have been allowed to chart such contrast without the ability to manage it.

It truly is a blessing that you wanted to work so hard in this lifetime that you would make some real progress. You are that strong.

Simple right from wrong and yes and no charts are written for people who are of lower vibration. They may have had some dark lives and they are just starting their ascension. They have charted simple tasks which are fairly direct and straight forward. They chose to place these right/wrong lessons before themselves in order to become more familiar with choosing right instead of past lives of choosing wrong. YOU are not this person. You are here on this site because you have found the desire to be evolved, informed and enlightened.

You may still make some wrong, misinformed or negative choices but you are here seeking God and absolution. You realize that you are responsible for your own soul and there are more positive places for you to occupy.

This may be true of your soul but now that you are human, life seems to hold too many difficult experiences. You want to opt out of some heart break and hardships. Try to remember that you charted life to learn specific lessons and experience certain things in order to learn more. You have some basic knowledge about a lot of things as a soul in the afterlife. You made a decision to expand your experience in certain areas. Very much like rounding out your general knowledge.

You may have had success in love many times and now you want to experience heart ache and loneliness. This is to expand your knowledge in this one area. You may have had lives of prosperity and now you want poverty. Yes, it sucks. But this is what you wanted. The opposite may also be true. You may have had lives of poverty and now want immense prosperity. Enjoy!

The caveat is, after many lives of poverty, you may dwindle down your cash and resources to again be in the more familiar state of poverty. After lives of being lonely and isolated you may force your loving partner and family to abandon you so you may return to the more familiar life of loneliness. These life lines can’t go unchecked. You would not want to destroy a loving, positive, successful life in order to revert back to a previous state of existence. This may happen inadvertently. If you wander through each day without feelings of responsibility, you may undo some very beautiful aspects of your life.

Don’t opt out. Trust that you are higher evolved and you set some pretty impressive goals for yourself. You came here to succeed and return home with some hard-won spiritual advancement. Stay on course. Get through the good times and the bad. Wear your experiences with pride.

A good metaphor may be that you are seeking a degree in life. You have lifelines in the required areas of love, family, wealth, spirituality, health, accomplishment, charity… You have required courses and elective ones. The goal is to obtain a degree which covers all areas of life with a focus in one or two specialized topics. You can’t skip any courses. If you do you won’t get a degree. You must fulfill all requirements or fall short and have to put in some extra semesters. No one wants to put in any more work than is necessary. Do the work and get your degree.

You are here to round out your learning in areas that you may be lacking. Or, you wanted to get a higher final grade. None of this sounds easy or superficial. You understood this. If you didn’t have goals, there would be no reason to be here.

Understand that a desert period may be charted but for specific reasons. Being lazy, subversive or in denial is NOT a desert period. You may think you are savvy or unconventional but when you return to the Other Side, you may be sorely lacking. Savvy turns sour in a hurry.

A Big Surprise

This may come as a complete shock to you but it is OK to skip some things that you have charted!

Surprising right? The only time that this is recommended is when the event, relationship or journey is of a lower vibration than where you are. We will try to explain this so that everyone is able to comprehend what we mean.

Take for example a woman who has been unfaithful to her husband a few times in the past. For various reasons she stepped outside of her marriage. Then, she either resolved some emotional issues or made a determination that she will behave with more truth and honor. She stopped cheating. She raised her vibration by making this necessary step. Perhaps she charted a few more affairs. It is ok for her to skip those subsequent relationships because she has already ended this cycle of negative behavior. She is now above any relationship which demeans or undermines her marriage and husband.

Another example is a man who has a step-son. He has an extensive history of disliking this young boy for various reasons. After some time, he has begun to see his actions as unfair and unsupported by the child’s own behavior. He realizes he was angry at the situation, not the child. He decides to make amends and treat the child more fairly. He may have charted some more detrimental actions and attitudes toward this child and it is good that he is able to skip these lower vibration actions. He has risen above his previous behavior and is entitled to behave with more honor.

What happens when you skip anything in your chart? The surprising fact is that each chart has many option lines. You did not just write one story that can only progress from one point to another. You actually charted a wide variety of options. This accounts for some of the changes that occur. You may raise or lower your vibration depending upon how you feel, others’ contribution or what type of reactions occur from you or anyone else involved.

Random events do occur, but not often. The greatest source of variance would be people who are dark. They may not have charts and they could impact your life in a variety of ways. Either you have some relationship with a darker person or one impacts you in some way. This would account for some unplanned or uncharted delays or detours.

You may also skip or divert a situation by seeking Divine intervention. Miracles happen and it is possible that in a moment of desperation, you may be granted some altered consequence or reprieve.

You may change or shorten a difficult life cycle by rising above it much earlier than expected. This is optimal! You may be able to respond to many life circumstances with absolute faith. In these instances you would jump well ahead of your chart. Then, you may experience a lull in events or another charted lifeline will begin. If you then slide backward, your original chart may resume. This is very possible. You may possess Divine inspiration in one moment and return to your normal level of faith in the next.

The complexities of life charts may sound truly intricate. Please remember to rise above any negativity, build faith and make uncommon decisions that boost your vibration and allow you to burst forward. Embrace God and the inspiration that comes from deep faith and a spiritual perspective.

It is always better to treat people with more respect than you normally would. It is encouraged that you stop lying, manipulating or attempt to cheat anyone. Improve your interaction with people, pets, the environment, private property… This is the best way to go and your overall spiritual success will respond as well.

Your vibration takes into account your behavior but also your thoughts and feelings to a lesser degree. If you harbor anger toward others but resist demonstrating this, your vibration will still suffer. If you think, feel and behave more positively, your vibration will increase. It matters much more that you truly find understanding and forgiveness and not simply state that you have.

You may have heard people state that thoughts become real. As far as your overall vibration, this is true. Being a better person goes deeper than what you display to the outside world. This is something that you must take into account. Find faith deep into your soul. Altering your behavior superficially does very little for your energy vibration and spiritual success.

Walk the walk AND talk the talk. Your Light shines from deep inside you out into the world. You are the answer that you seek. Live up to it.

Sympathy and Empathy

People often ask how to be a better person? It is always a simple answer. If you look at the behavior, thinking and intentions of anyone you may see that they are basically positive or negative. This may be easier for you to decide about other people since you would tend to be objective. If you are asked about your own overall wellness and positivity, you would tend to split hairs, justify certain behavior and make excuses. You would be offended by someone’s quick assertions about you.

Basically, if you do good things and have a positive attitude, you are a good person. If you harm people intentionally, steal, lie, manipulate and live without sympathy/empathy for anyone, you are a bad person. Any action may be assessed in this manner. It is much like a judge in a court of law. This person will accept descriptions, facts, information and testimony then make a determination. This is also how the Universe decides what your energy vibration is. Just the facts.

What does your behavior say about you without any excuses or explanations?

This is a difficult way to look at you. In your current world you have a list of reasons and explanations for your behavior. You are depressed, you are reacting to something, you are getting back at someone, you are jealous, you have trauma in your past… There are so many layers for why you act, feel and behave in a certain way.

If you are happy, well-adjusted, flexible and self-determined you rarely act out against others. You may have thoughts of vengeance but why would you go through with it when everything is good in your life? Your own flexibility takes over and you move on to much more interesting and positive things. The people who seek vengeance and actively sabotage people in their lives usually have a lower vibration. They are dark. They see no benefit to responding to stress in a positive manner. They move from one conflict to another and try to get the better of anyone who they feel is in their way or have spoken out or acted out against them.

Their darkness varies. Some people are very dark and evil. Other people are grey, darker grey or intermittently dark. You have been in contact with truly evil people. They make you cringe and you go the other way ASAP. You get a creepy feeling and perhaps your skin feels like it is crawling. Some are described as having dead eyes. You see no emotion or feeling in their gaze. Or, they may look right through you.

What you may not actually know is where you are on the continuum of energy vibration. Are you mostly good or mostly bad? Making an assessment about your own behavior will be difficult because of your explanations and justifications. Make your best effort to decide where you stand on a scale of 1- 10.

Be honest and then go about raising your vibration. No excuses, explanations or justifications. Simply good behavior or bad behavior. Be a nice, supportive and friendly person. View your actions alone. You don’t get this yet, we know. Why would we negate all of your past experiences in reference to how you interact with the world today? Because you are an adult and you must overcome adversity and find goodness in yourself and others.

This is also how we answer the damnation question. If you are a higher vibration person, you cross over and dwell in the upper 5 levels of the Afterlife. Those who have a lower vibration cross over and find themselves in the lower 2 levels.

Why would you knowingly behave in ways where you may end up in the lower levels? The extensive list of questions about how to get away with as much as possible and still not go to Hell was eye opening. It seemed like a very childlike agenda. Can I cheat on my spouse if they deserve it? If my mom did not properly care for me as a child do I have to take care of her now that she is older and sickly? Is harming someone in the name of religion still wrong? Again, look at the action and not the backstory. Harming others, stealing money, lying, cheating, violence… is never OK. If you cannot get past what has occurred between you and the other person than the only thing you can do is walk away. Do no harm and seek no vengeance. This action will increase your vibration.

It is the acting out in harmful ways that lowers your vibration. It is best to not have the darker thoughts as well but the important thing is to not act upon them. Then, work on yourself every day to resist having the darker thoughts as well. Have you noticed that we did not take into account the layers of why, who and what? It is the thoughts and actions, not the backstory.

Enter the concepts of sympathy and empathy. These considerations are for others, not you. Rate your own actions according to how you influence or impair another. If you have no need for sympathy and empathy, then your path is much longer. If you are able to embrace your potential influence upon others, you are much closer to a resolution.

Meet all of your darker thinking and overcome them. Being an independent adult who is self-directed means that you are accountable for your thoughts and actions. You may have been seriously harmed yet God expects you to overcome and offer the Universe love and forgiveness. You are absolved for your sins as well. This is a global event. Everyone is eligible for absolution unless you are dark and treat others with dark thoughts, behaviors and actions.

It is very simple. There is no ambiguity. Your vibration determines your life experience and where you cross over to in the afterlife.

Consider Trauma

What does trauma do to someone’s feelings, and emotions? Consider the age of the person and the impact will likely seem larger for those who are younger. Serious problems could develop. The overall impact trauma has on any one person is directly influenced by their ability to problem-solve, reason and cope. So, an adult who has limited coping skills may have a more dramatic response to trauma than a teenager with good coping skills and a strong support system. Conversely, elders may have had some organic changes in their brain and have lost some resiliency to contrast. It is all relative.

Trauma is subjective. The severity of the trauma depends entirely on how the person who has suffered it responds and reacts. To look at someone else who has suffered a crisis, you lose that subjectivity that they naturally possess. Even if someone is very close to you, the true emotion, fear or disruption in their life still impact them more. If you react more strongly than them, there is likely an imbalance in your emotional stability. Even if you are their parent, the sufferer will continue to be the person impacted the most. No amount of empathy brings you 100% in their shoes.

The groundwork of feeling safe happens very young. If you are familiar with the stages of development you understand this premise. If the infant/child did not successfully feel safe or autonomous, their response to trauma in their entire lifetime will have a greater impact upon them. Again, it is the basis of anyone’s development which the person builds the rest of their life experiences upon. If that foundation is unstable, there is little success in reaching a healthy, resilient, emotionally flexible child, young adult and adult.

This is where We tie into the post from yesterday. The household environment impacts the child from the start. A healthy parent/child relationship will go far into building someone with effective coping strategies. This refers to either parent or caregiver.

Any cycle of anger, fear, despair or acting out may happen all throughout life and in response to different areas of development. Nothing is set in stone and being flexible is very important to our discussion. Any disruption in care may affect the child. There are many factors that will create differences in a child’s development. The possibilities are endless. Each adult may have had a very unique upbringing experience, even if there are siblings. We will not touch upon each form of contrast.

Optimal is an emotionally healthy home with adequate supervision, individual attention, scholastic help, leisure activities and adequate finances. Each parent is healthy and responsible. Any disruption is handled calmly and fairly. Attention and help is given equally to every child. The children are healthy and able to successfully negotiate the school environment.

This is optimal but not common. Even if many of the requirements are met there still will be variations that may impact each child. It is important to raise a child to feel safe, secure, understood, valued and protected. If any of these areas are impaired or lacking, there may be changes in the child’s behavior.

Now add any amount of dysfunction to the home. With a higher incidence of conflict, upheaval, abuse or neglect, the impact upon the health of each child will be affected negatively. More stress leads to more reactivity. Then, being resilient as children are, they will somehow find a new “normal.” If the conflict is long-lasting, severe or directed at the child, they will lose their ability to resolve their emotional disruption. The dysfunction in their household will have a permanent impact on them.

Why is any of this important? Because you are the child AND the parent. You have elements of each in your everyday life. Perhaps you haven’t realized that in some situations, you are the younger person, subordinate or least mature individual in an interaction or environment. Then, you may be the older, authoritative, ultimately responsible person of a different interaction or environment. There is blend of many situations and interactions that draw upon your coping and maturity. Within you there are matters handled by the “parent” aspect and others responded to by the “child” aspect.

We have done some Inner Child work in the past and We will do more now. You are in a position of responsibility for yourself. Being an independent adult leaves you in control of your emotional health. You must examine your perception of trauma. Remember that you are the only person who will understand how you felt and responded to the upsetting events of your life. Others may share some similar feelings but no one can feel exactly what you did. Trauma is subjective. It is up to you to decide how important each event was and resolve the seemingly permanent results it had upon you.

As an adult, you have a choice as to how you will behave and react. Take into account any dysfunction in your life and your ability to respond optimally will decrease. You have the choice. You are responsible for every action you take. Review how you were raised. How strong is your independence and feelings of worth? Did things go well for you? Or, was there an overwhelming amount of dysfunction to deal with? How is this impacting your current life? If you are emotionally healthy, you have reasonable, contemplative responses to contrast. You may not have experienced every situation that you will encounter in life but you have confidence and self-assurance. If you have impulsive, emotionally reactive behavior, there were disruptions in your development. Perhaps this is trauma related or another causative factor.

We focus on trauma for good reason. Anything with less emotional impact would likely not have had permanent changes to the emotional development of anyone. An annoyance, complication, challenge… would be manageable to most people at any age. Trauma is more severe and life altering. Always remember that this is what you considered to be traumatic. Other people may disagree with your perspective but that is inconsequential. You decide what traumatized you.

Our perspective starts with you healing yourself and then rising above to experience life from a position of strength, confidence, emotional and spiritual health. Let us walk this road together.

 

Healthy Parents

This information is provided as a guide for the make-up of people raising children and the potential effects. The purpose is to present to you differing scenarios of how children may be emotionally healthy or mired in dysfunction and to what degree.

We present this to you in hopes that you make an effort to either raise your own children in a loving, supportive environment or help others create stability for their children when varying degrees of dysfunction exist.

It is possible to raise the next few generations and refuse to allow any child to be left unsafe, insecure or alone. Where ever your “family” starts on this scale, begin there and strive to achieve a healthy household. The next generation will respond to the increased stability and reach even higher toward an emotionally healthy household.

  1. Healthy mom & dad produce a docile bunch.
  2. Single parent produces children who heavily swing toward the gender of that parent. Children may lack adequate supervision. Each child may receive a lesser amount of individual attention, including scholastic help. There is usually a lack financial resource.
  3. Grandparents raising children cause a lack of physical activity, higher food intake and heavy sugar use. They rely upon their own upbringing when food and drink were encouraged without recognizing the dietary implications. There continues the limitations of supervision, individual attention, scholastic help and possible inadequate finances.
  4. One grandparent raising children produces tendencies toward the gender of that grandparent, heavy caregiver stress and limitations of travel and /or relocation. The presence of only one grandparent causes the child or children to feel overtly obligated to stay at or close to home. There is little opportunity to follow their dreams. Higher education may not be possible or could create a lot of debt. Personal fulfilment is uncommon.
  5. Siblings raising their siblings results in disorganization, lack of responsibility, poor nutrition and high dropout rates. Depression may be common in both the caregiver and the child. Acts of destructive behavior or self-injury may develop.
  • The sibling who raises their own siblings brings about high caregiver stress, lack of self-definition, a desire to limit their own pregnancy/children, a fractured psyche, substance abuse and high dropout rates.
  • The sibling raised by another sibling creates an emotional vacuum of the caregiver who is never satiated, irresponsibility, lack of respect for elders or parents in general, poor health, dysfunctional coping, mood swings, victim-oriented interactions, sociopathy, substance abuse and malingering or outright joblessness.

Children raised in foster care have higher incidents of all the above dysfunctional outcomes listed.

These are examples only and do not represent all possible outcomes for children in every situation. Some possible dysfunctional results are not listed. There are also some healthy “families” without either biological parent.

The information provided is based on the basic needs of each child being met.

The further away from healthy, well-adjusted parents, the more dysfunction may be present. Then, the possibilities of abuse, neglect, medical illness/trauma, sexual abuse, homelessness, poverty… will increase the emotional toll on both caregivers and children.

There is always hope. You, as an individual, may begin reaching for a healthy “family.” Several generations may have faltered but you may turn this around. Beginning with you, it is possible to increase the emotional stability of this generation and the next. Teaching children about love, respect, personal space, honesty, faith and responsibility will improve their relationship with their own children. Then that generation will raise children to the best of their ability.

You may be the one who changes everything. Have hope. Do the work. Be a leader and a follower and hold yourself to a higher standard. Do you remember a generation when there was bounty and prosperity in your family? Who was the family leader? What values, goals or priorities made it better? Why did it change? There may be a lot of lessons learned from looking back on the most recent successful “parent” and making adjustments to align with that success more closely.

 

 

Two Common Concerns

Many realizations have come to light since We posted about whom We are and what We are here to do. Some of the responses are endearing and others are a little more shocking.

First of all, you are somewhat surprised that We are a collective of energies. You have heard of collective beings before and you are not so sure you are on board with this new information. What We would like you to consider is that the information We provide resonates and inspires you. We answer your questions as often as possible so you know We are in tune with your needs. As We stated in the previous post, We are a collective so We may specialize in many areas of knowledge to bring you the best possible information for you to consider. We are “divested” in order to serve you better.

The next bit of information was in reference to your behavior and the possibility of going to Hell after death. Your concerns were specific to “sin.” What you want to know is how much can you get away with and still go to a realm of light? As We have written about previously, there is no Hell, specifically. There are levels of existence. The lower levels are dark and negative. Souls who go to these levels have led lives full of lower energy. Then, there are higher levels which are specific to your spiritual development and specific areas of interest.

The lower light levels are for souls who are early in their education. They may be borderline positive/negative. Perhaps they have had trauma to overcome, have suffered from abuse from darker energy, have begun to live in the higher vibrations but still have some karmic debt to make amends for or they were unaware there are better ways to behave and make a positive impact as they age.

The upper levels are for advanced souls. This would be for philosophers, spiritual leaders, advanced healers and those who have lived in the light AND have been in service to others to increase the light on earth.

Your behavior is what accounts for your vibration. If you do good things and care for the wellbeing of others, you have a decent vibration. You may have this good vibration and have become aware that you have a chart and you set about living the life that you intended. You learn and study. You meditate and become connected with Source. You would then increase your vibration even more.

Then, there is the opposite. You may have a lower vibration and do very little to make it better. You harm others and continue your life of self-absorption. This will cause you to have an even lower vibration. You can imagine various acts or behavior that would continue to lower your vibration and then you simultaneously increase your chances of entering the lower levels of existence after death. This is all up to you. You have choices that you make every day.

We wonder what your reason is for asking these specific questions. Are you entrenched in drugs and alcohol, abuse family members, steal money or neglect your children? These behaviors are dark enough that you must make changes. Have you knowingly caused the death of someone? This is a definite dark matter.

Our perspective is that making these decisions about your own behavior should be fairly easy. Focus on one behavior or action and ask yourself if it is positive or negative. No, you are not to consider the “yes, but…” or “no, but…” implications. It is simply yes or no. The mitigating factors are for you to come to terms with and realize that, as an adult, you are responsible for your own behavior. Do the work and begin to increase your vibration. Simple.

If you wish to be a servant to past mistakes or karmic debt, you probably really don’t want to make any changes and you visit this site for quick fixes. You won’t find that here. You make the changes or you continue to serve your addictions and bad behavior. No one here will absolve you of the responsibility to own your behavior and begin making positive adjustments.

If you want to do the bare minimum to stay out of “Hell”, then you also have the wrong site.

There are some people who definitely want to make some positive changes and promote each generation to be better than the one before. This is selfless and conscientious. This shows that you have hopes for yourself and others. You have recognized the negative cycles of behavior and want to stand on your own, healed and maintain or regain your personal power.

You are not alone. We are in spirit and are fully capable of being at your side. You read and respond to Our words and We then cater to your questions or concerns. This is a therapeutic relationship! We hear you, We understand what you want and need. We are committed to your healing physically, emotionally and spiritually.

There are so many ways to increase your vibration. We will walk you through them. After time, it will be clear to you that something has gotten better. You are hopeful and positive. You spend less time making excuses and choose to make changes instead. You may bound through each day with hope and prosperity and never waste a moment wondering where you will spend eternity.

That fear you run from today does not serve any purpose and you will wonder why you were so concerned. Those questions about your own behavior really were so easy to differentiate between positive and negative. You smile because you made it harder than it really was.

The Pilgrimage

You think that you are travelling to a far off land to find absolution. The truth of your journey is that you are going to find everything you want, need and rely upon inside of you. Your answers are not far away at all. By looking inward you will discover what to heal, where your journey will lead and how to find guidance.

Despite the simplicity of your answer the actual process may seem complicated. Why would you find complexities when being introspective? Because it doesn’t happen automatically. There are steps to take and it doesn’t happen quickly.

The single most important step is to protect yourself from any outside forces or earthbound spirits. There are many protection exercises. Research the internet, find a book or join a spiritual support group to discover which method of protection resonates with you. There is the white egg visualization or outward facing mirror capsule. Asking spirit or animal guides, angels, saints or other higher beings to surround you will work only if you give them your permission to act on your behalf. If you maintain your free will, you will isolate yourself from receiving any assistance.

After activating enough protection to keep you safe during spiritual healing, you must cleanse and clear all areas of your physical and energy body. This is daunting especially if you haven’t begun to heal yet. You must clear any blockages and barriers within your aura and physical body. This will take time since your issues will heal in layers. Spirit and other guides will begin where it makes most sense and then bring up issues as you progress.

Meditation is essential. Start now and improve your ability to go inward and accept direction but NOT from your inner voice. It is entirely possible that you will merely speak to yourself and freelance any issues to heal or direction to take. To get to this point you must stop yourself from speaking while you meditate. Once you get that true silence, your guides will offer your insight.

You must heal and open each chakra. In order to communicate with your Divinity, you must have a clear channel with which to communicate. There are many chakra opening exercise and meditations. Find what process works best for you. Each time you meditate, make chakra health a part of the process. This will promote continued success developing your inner self.

You will open your crown chakra and connect to Heaven and other higher realms available to you. Also, you will connect to Mother Earth through your base chakra. Having this secure connection will assist you invaluable.

There are many exercises for cleansing as well. You may use the “violet flame,” a healing vortex, rinsing with White Light like a shower, getting a Reiki or reflexology treatment or seeing a reputable energy healer. By researching ways to cleanse your energy centers you will find what fits your comfort level and seems easy to use.

Once meditation has improved and you do it routinely, you must do some Inner Child work. You may search this site by the keywords “Inner Child” and read the previous posts. We will also do more Inner Child work beginning soon. The whole idea is to acknowledge the pure, fragile and vulnerable part of you and make it grow strong and healthy.

Your IC will start out young and small then age according to your healing process. Eventually, your IC will appear to you as your current self. This is a lengthy process and you may note your IC varying in age during healing. It is best to accept your IC at any age that they appear. Trust the process and do the work. The goal is to successfully “parent” your younger self and be the guide, protector and teacher that you needed to be raised emotionally healthy. The people who truly had wonderful childhoods will have less work than most of you.

Once you have done all of the initial work you must maintain an open channel to your inner self during meditation. Stay cleansed, cleared and allow ongoing healing. You will be guided about what direction to take, what else you need to resolve and how to increase your energy vibration. Whatever senses usually work for receiving information will also work for this. You may see visions but rarely feel sensations. Or, you may just “know” what is being given to you. Sometimes you hear a voice and also “know” this is not your own inner voice. You may feel sensations on your skin or in your body or smell scents that are not in your environment. These are your five senses working to bring you guidance. The sixth sense is what you will develop through this entire process.

We are so pleased that you are here. We want nothing more but to guide you and bring you directly to God. There is so much to learn by going inward. You may have believed that God was a being outside of you. Now you know that you may find His Grace by looking inward and becoming the perfect vessel for His love and teachings. Understand that God is within you and you are truly worthy of such a gift.

Find the truth and be set free.

Online Charades

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Love is at its finest when it is given without expectation. The moment you feel you need some acknowledgment, your pure intentions are lost. One of the most difficult lessons is about selflessness. It is a giant leap in ascension to focus only upon those you love, inspire you and you want to heal.

Many people are not accustomed to looking outward only. Being selfless requires no doubts or second guessing. No hesitation when sending out your energy and intent to heal. You have a habit of looking at someone without any consideration for how they really feel, if they are well or is there joy in their life. You only embrace their outer appearance. You have been content to consider only what people are presenting to you, not what is actually there.

This is more profound now that the internet has made finding friends and partners superficial and seemingly effortless. The vast majority of internet users present only what they want others to believe. There is a lot of deceit, misjudgment and fantasy at play. You also believe what you want to believe so the misrepresentation goes both ways.

This is not how God intended you to find members of your support system. You may find people, interests and groups on the internet but then actual in-person interaction may take place. Find them, meet them and learn to love them. If this is an internet only friendship then make sure it is positive and helpful.

Many people perpetuate their dysfunction through online relationships. You will find an abuser if you behave as a victim. You will be lied to and mistreated if this is part of your expectations. You will fall into someone else’s lies or manipulation if you need to rescue someone or be emotionally battered. The dynamic that you create in real life is also the dynamic you create in your online life except that it is much easier to pull off.

No one is following your tracks unless you want them to. Your parents or siblings don’t always realize that you’ve created something unhealthy while you are online. In real life your family and friends may see that someone is disrespecting you, hurting your feelings or physically mistreating you. Online you only present what you want when your loved ones ask about your life.

The hardship is evident when you don’t realize that you have searched far and wide for someone to fulfil your dysfunction. The same dysfunction that ruined your childhood or ended your marriage. You have not found emotional health; you have found someone to fill your need. You may have fought with loved ones to keep your abuser in real life and you will likely do the same now.

You invest far too much time building a persona that is not real or healthy. This online life will serve to waste days, months or even years of your life. Your online “boyfriend/girlfriend” is not genuine. You behave in ways to mislead them and fulfil what dysfunction they are looking for. Does this serve a purpose? Not really.

God wishes you to find true healing and emotional wellbeing. Find your problems and take steps to resolve them. Do the work. Resolve whatever dynamic has derailed your emotional health. Find a new perspective from a state of wellness and then find love.

You spend your time filling holes in a sinking boat. Then, you find another person who fits into this unhealthy dynamic in real life or on the internet. What results? You are both in a broken boat, filling even bigger holes. This is not happiness. This is not emotional health. You are perpetuating the dysfunction that has already taken up far too much of your time.

What happens most often is that you don’t realize that you have these emotional triggers that shape your life. You continue along like you have found the greatest canvas to feel complete. You have actual joy regarding your online life and most people don’t really know what you are doing. You have your privacy unless you publish your every move on the internet!

This is actually delaying any real growth and maturity. You are active every day to keep playing the same moves over again. “This is who I am. Please love me.” But what of the image you are presenting are not really you?

There are real benefits by having the internet. This may be one way in which it serves no purpose other to entertain you with “relationships.” It is like being part of a play. If you knew an actor that stayed in character even when not performing the play, you would think this was odd. So here you are, or possibly others in your life, playing a role you created, or allowed others to create for you, and you stay in character. You may become defensive that your online life is “real!”

Well, make it real. Be honest and genuine. Learn, express, experience and grow. Find ways to resolve some concerns and share your healing with others who may need to hear how it is done. Respond to constructive suggestions. Are they right? Do you have some underlying behavior that is negative or manipulative? Make changes if those suggestions resonate with you. Find your true self. Release any anger, greed, ego or despair. Open to God and allow your own healing. Find communion and grow exponentially.

Use the internet as tool to support the good work you do while making your own life better and the lives of those you love. Don’t live on the internet. Be mindful and find a healthy balance.