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The Rush of Your Chart

What have you chosen to be? Have you had enough time to think about it? Do you need my help? We all struggle with our own self-expression, but to align more closely with your chart you would release many of your unnecessary distractions.  All matters would seem to fall into place. Often We say that your life would seem charmed, but this is the truth of it.

Being in alignment feels very different than what you are used to experiencing. Your vision will become crystal clear and vivid. You may feel taller. It will seem like you are towering over everyday items like you may have grown a foot taller. Even looking into a mirror will seem different.

You may have tunnel vision. Meaningless distractions will be dismissed quickly. You will hone in on important matters. Your thoughts will be effective and streamlined. It will feel like you have gotten a lot of things done.

The downside is that you may have less patience for communicating with others who are not in alignment with you. It may seem like they will have limited understanding about what you are saying and you might be better off if you skip the conversation altogether. You may feel like some people are wasting your time.

You may also become lightheaded. Your perception may seem to swirl a little different than usual. Almost like your timing is a little bit off. You may also get a feeling like time is passing more quickly. It may feel like you are ten steps ahead of where you actually are. This is where the tunnel vision will possibly cause you to become dizzy. Looking forward may resemble the environment leaping toward you.

The good news is that these feelings are temporary. It may be like a boost to your knowledge and understanding, then returning to normal. It will be very helpful to be grounded. The discomfort would be minimized if you were anchored to God and Mother Earth. The best way to look at it is that you are on or very near who you are intended to be.

Those enlightened moments must be celebrated. You have done your work and you are making progress. You may actually feel close enough to Heaven to touch it. Your heart will leap when you feel all of this. This moment of clarity will give you a glimpse of true grace. Your departed loved ones will be very near to you. It will feel like you have found the perfect wavelength and your loved ones will gather for you. All at once, it all makes sense and it is vibrationally perfect.

If you remember the rush of an amusement park ride, this is so similar. Brief, yet perfect. If you have ever had those moments in life where you are doing everyday, non-eventful things and you realize that you don’t remember every minute of your trip. Your mind went somewhere. It may have felt surreal or dreamlike. This is exactly what it feels like.

We will work the next few posts on finding your chart and allowing your purpose to manifest. It will be exciting and stimulating. You may need some more practice meditating, so keep trying and We will catch up to you in time.

The Magic of Family

Many people say that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family. That is not exactly right. We have chosen our family, through many generations in fact. We are composed of a soul group. We have been parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles… for each other for many generations.

We have intricate karmic relationships with each other. We have experienced positive and negative life circumstances repeatedly. Spirit often states that both positive and negative events are intended to teach us. We may simply say our family dynamics are both positive and negative, possibly at the same time.

We are the closest friends on the Other Side. We know each other intimately. We have been both male and female. We also chose to teach each other in death. The entire lifespan of our relationships have been carefully orchestrated. Some of our lives mirror each other by intention. Which makes sense if we have the same parents, grandparents… Then, at other times, we are the exact opposite despite our shared lives.

Some negative traits are carried through families as well. Drug and alcohol abuse tends to occur in subsequent generations. So does depression, bi-polar disorder, and psychotic illnesses. We learn much of our dysfunction from our parents or the primary care giver in our youth. If they did not have healthy coping skills, then we also may not. We also were aligned by wealth. If our grandparents were wealthy then it was more likely that we were also raised with money. It is also true that if our grandparents had money then some cycle of dysfunction began which lead to the loss of wealth. Whatever our previous generation dealt with somehow influenced us. There is a pattern.

We are not lost to the irony of your human lives. The heaviness and negativity of the earth is exactly why you chose to live here. There is a challenge in relationships that many of you cannot possibly escape. You were destined to go through this drama because you had an agreement with your closest souls.

This is one of the most frustrating realities that humans may struggle to accept. Your life is Divine and you are eternal. Your earth life is a series of challenges intended to teach you. By taking each moment of every day and expecting it to be the sum total of your existence, you lay too much importance upon it. People live well, are sad, get sick, graduate college, die alone, stay well, die poor, work a trade, are happy, build a home, have close family, are solitary, find God … all in different lives. Yes, but what did that teach you? It is that simple.

Embrace each moment of every day and ask God what more do you have to learn? “I learned __________ from my youth but chose _________ as something spiritually successful as I age.” “My father taught me________ and I built upon it for my children to learn from.” “My grandfather drank alcohol and was verbally abusive. My mother abuses alcohol as well. I chose to _____________.” “My grandmother was poor after my grandfather died. I have a retirement account and life insurance so my family will be ok.” Who better to learn from than those closest to you? You not only witnessed change but you experienced it as well. Life taught you by putting you through it and your family agreed to be part of the process.

Life is positive and negative and so are your family members. Learn from someone who is making good decisions and learning life lessons. And, learn the opposite of what your family members with poor coping skills have chosen to do. These lessons are very intimate because you have an emotional connection to the person whose learning.

Embrace the committment that you have made to each other. Walk this part of the trail together and learn from their success and failure. We care enough to struggle or celebrate with each the other. Love survives many relationship stressors. Even if you don’t love the person you are related to, they are still here to learn from. There are also times when you cannot be in contact with those you love out of dysfunction. You may still want the best for them but cannot accept the damage that they brought upon you. This is ok. You may make that decision for yourself. God always knows your heart. You are never asked to be abused just because you are related to someone.

Life is about finding love, peace and success. You aligned all of your family in order to teach you effectively. Each of you had the strength to commit to this together. Honor the part of them which provided you the most good and forgive the rest. You don’t have to be in an abusive relationship but you can still forgive. This is good for your soul. Hate or holding a grudge is not the lesson that you intended for each other.

Approach life knowing the truth about each day. You are the author and you charted this for your own growth and for the chance to teach those you love as well. This is about your soul and the souls of your dearest loved ones when you are on the Other Side. Of course they taught you the hardest lessons! That is just like them!

Deeper Trauma

It seems that we must travel further down the darkened path for some of you to be able to face traumatic events in your past. This is ok. There is no judgment here. We only wish for you to heal and prosper. We will do what is necessary to help you recover.

Let us begin with parents who suffered from substance abuse during your childhood years. Right now you may not see the lessons held within this situation. All you see is abuse and neglect that you suffered from parents who behaved unpredictably. While sober they were sullen, angry and short-tempered. When drunk or high they were unavailable and reckless. Their actions made no sense and their behavior was embarrassing. You felt at risk of a great many things and you were punished if you spoke to someone outside of the home seeking help. You learned how to lie about your injuries and lack of parental support. You grew up way too fast and were responsible for too many adult responsibilities. When you cried out, you were met with disdain.

Some of you may have had angry, abusive parents. This may or may not have had roots in substance abuse. There were angry words and excessive punishments. They used the “strap” or the wooden spoon. It seemed like all of the children were punished for the same mistake. Everyone was berated and oppressed. You may have had bad grades. It was your fault even though no one helped you with homework or provided supplies for that science project. Somehow it was all of your fault. Their reasonings made no sense. They logic went from having a problem to you needing punishment. There were no logical steps in between. You learned how to be sneaky and attempt to have some joy in life without drawing your parents attention. You covered for their beatings and made excuses for their behavior. You relished the times when you went to see your grandparents or that loving aunt. You wished upon stars that life would find comfort and happiness instead of pain and condemnation.

Others of you were neglected. You had little to no supervision. Your parents were absorbed with their own lives or they suffered from substance issues. Maybe they had to work multiple jobs to keep the household going. YOU had to make your life work. You made sure you had food and clothes to wear. You were overly responsible for your age. You may have been a guardian for your younger siblings or your older siblings were responsible for you. There was no one to go to for comfort or support. Life seemed unbearably lonely. You envied the lives of your classmates. At times you spent too much time visiting neighbors or family members. You wanted some type of “family” for yourself.

There may have been sexual abuse. You were unsafe and vulnerable. It was something you didn’t understand and yet there was no one to ask about it. You cried out and wondered why no one could tell how much pain you were in. How did the adults in your life miss all those red flags you were waving? You acted out. Still no one knew why. It was like screaming without any sound coming from your mouth. Why was this happening? Is this normal? Why do I feel so dirty? Then MAYBE you were courageous enough to tell someone. Then what? They didn’t believe you, they ignored your situation because they didn’t want to deal with it, or they were supportive but yet unhelpful. This felt like a prison sentence that you didn’t deserve.

How do we learn and grow from such desperate life circumstances? Where is the upside to any of these tragic events? How may we heal from such deeply painful experiences?

It is difficult to understand the “purpose” of these life circumstances. Much has to do with having faith. We often feel responsible for the unhappy times in our lives. Even as children we felt we somehow deserved to be beaten, neglected or abused. There may not have been any answers about how and why. If we find faith we KNOW something bigger than ourselves. There is a plan at work. We are a part of a sequence of events that was predetermined before we incarnated.

In time we learn that these life lessons were invaluable. We know how to keep our children safe and supervised. We attend the parent-teacher conferences. We buy the supplies for the science project and help our child build the best model. We listen to their thoughts, feelings and fears. We know that our child needs to be heard and understood. We do our best to own our behavior with regard to anger, substances, punishment and consequences.

Or…we do as we lived and repeat all of the same destructive parent-behavior that we experienced in our lives.

If you don’t have children it is possible to love and support others who are experiencing some of the same issues that you survived or were a witness to. You now understand neglect, loneliness, abuse, sexual assault or ongoing abuse, dealing with addicted family members, divorce, dropping out of school, underage pregnancy… You are the teacher for improved coping skills and managing traumatic life events. You have seen others attempt sobriety. You have known people who went to jail or suffered other legal complications from poor life choices. You are now the expert in so many areas of life.

It may be difficult to understand now but with maturity you will learn that your battle scars are what make you strong and wise. You are still here in life. Somehow you managed to get through some stressful times. You may have suffered from substance abuse, destructive behavior, promescuity, anger, depression and anxiety. You found your way to this point and you are still looking for ways to make your life better. You ARE a success. No one else has survived exactly how you did. You are smart, resourceful and you still have hope.

It was never between you and “them.” It was always about you and God.

Truly. Your actual self is an expanding, perfect soul with a list of lessons to learn and master. There is something larger than you. The Universe does exist and we are growing very quickly at this time. You are here and you want to learn. Your heart aches because of what you endured but there are so many more positives BECAUSE of what you endured.

Release any pain or injury. ALLOW God and let go of any need for vengeance. Your mother was playing her role. Your uncle agreed to make your life challenging. Your best friend contracted to try to help but to lack understanding. Your grandmother was supposed to turn her back. Your brother charted his life to be overwhelmed by substance abuse and negatively influence everyone in your household. Your life was tragic BECAUSE you are strong enough to survive it.

There is a saying about God never giving you more than you can handle. The truth is also that you never charted anything that you were unable to handle as well. Celebrate your success. Acknowledge and accept your ability to overcome great adversity.

If this concept does not yet resonate with you, that is ok as well. This universal truth will still be here when you are ready to look at your life as a series of successful challenges. There is no judgment. We love and accept you as you are now and we give you our support. Perfection is NOT a goal in life, but survivng is. And, you have survived quite beautifully!