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Calling All Angels!

This is Lisa. I have been in a weird space recently. I lost my Aunt one week and my sister was baptized the following one. This seems like a wide range of emotions very close together.

Today I asked for angels to come to me and give me wisdom and guidance. I was not disappointed. I feel emotionally stable again…for now.

We are not done with the “life after death” topic. This is a small detour that I needed for myself.

  1. Stay calm and serene. Spirit may intercede for you more efficiently in this state.
  2. Quieting your thoughts helps Universal guidance to flow to and through you.
  3. Be grounded upon High and be grounded upon Low. It is this gentle state in between that creates the balance and spiritual stability that you need.
  4. Remain balanced even when you are stressed, surprised or unhappy. An over-reaction causes a ripple effect in your stasis. Thereby much more will become unbalanced as a result.
  5. Top to bottom and everything in between works in concert together. A focus upon just a few areas creates an imbalance. Seek total health and nutrition. What is ingested is as important as what is eliminated. Be aware of both processes.
  6. Brighter more brilliant colors aid in your stability as well. Flush and refill all throughout your day. This helps to release any issues or concerns which are not worthy of your time and attention.
  7. More love in your heart and more love sent out to others will bring an exponential amount of love to you. Love is compounded and grows well in this positive medium.
  8. Brisk and lucid energy brings more grace and understanding to you. All matters are allowed to flow in and flow out. Nothing is valuable enough to hold on to. If it is glorious, you will have constant access to it anyway.
  9. Grace brings a positive, healthy glow to you which others will be drawn to. From there you will infuse them with good health and well-being.
  10. Travel only matters if it brings you enrichment and expansion. Much of what is necessary may be learned here, on your own.
  11. Grace is in never-ending supply. The times you feel barren and exhausted is because YOU have stepped out of the constant flow.
  12. Hearing from departed loved ones is a precious benefit and it must be shared with all others. Giving freely will bring progress and good graces to you as well.
  13. Faith covers all bases. There is never a moment when you are left without guidance, love and support.
  14. Any energy may be channeled into good energy. Don’t forget to change directions when you begin to struggle. This step will change your life dramatically.
  15. It is never a bother to stop and learn from life’s circumstances. To avoid any adversity would render life meaningless.
  16. “Beauty” is assigned its meaning by you. Any event, circumstances or contrast has beauty if that is what you see.
  17. Love travels faster than anger, hate or judgment. Sending love out brings more back to your area, community and region. You create a blanket of love by sending it out in all directions.
  18. Learning and teaching by example is God’s way.
  19. Always flush out that spot where you store and harbor negative energy. This holds you back from greater deeds. Find it even though you may have effectively hidden it from you.
  20. Grace walks at every vibration. Never feel that you are unreachable by it or God’s love. At any point in your life, God sends you enough grace to meet your needs. This is your truth.

Everlasting Grief

Losing a loved one may start any type of reaction within you. Many things factor into how pronounced you feel the loss. One of the most important factors is how much residual grief you have left from having lost loved ones in the past. If you are not adept at processing grief, much of it may remain even after many years. Then, when you suffer another loss, the residual grief swells up and is exponentially more severe.

Losses in childhood may be very painful, even now. That is where the struggle begins. Many times you suffer loss in childhood and no one processes this event with you. Either the people in your life didn’t realize that you needed special attention or they did not know how to process grief themselves and were unable to help you.

Then you were involved in the ritual of death to some degree. You were at the wake, funeral and burial or you were sheltered from all of it and people were absent from your life without sufficient explanation. This level of involvement impacted how you process grief from that point forward.

Oddly enough your parents more thoroughly explained Christmas and the fictitious Santa Claus then they did of loved ones dying. This could apply to any religion or cultural event that your family practices. This is just an example. Your family may be more comfortable with certain holidays or family events but not at all comfortable with people dying. Very often, children are left to process this significant event alone or with limited information. Even more tragic is when a child is assisted with death and dying by another uninformed child.

The problem with someone dying is that it is an abstract idea. Children are not able to process abstract information early in life. They don’t understand the concept of someone dying. Someone lying in a casket or in an urn is also very abstract. Well, where did grandma go? What happened to her? What does “dead” mean?

The most success with processing grief is when you are presented with very real, factual information in childhood to the extent of your understanding. This requires a thoughtful, considerate adult who is willing to take time with any child while presented with death. This is not just one contact. The child requires input throughout the death/dying ritual. It would also be necessary for someone to touch base with the child at a few different intervals after. This will dispel any misconceptions or gossip that the child may have been presented with.

Most of us didn’t have the benefit of this kind of attention. Parents who suffer from addictions have less patience for helping children and there may be a spike in the substance abuse. Depressed parents or elders will also be unable to satisfactorily walk a child through death. It is also possible that parents or adults are not fully aware of accurate information either. Then, there are adults who are crippled by the loss of this person and are unable to guide anyone through this process. They are overwhelmed and the suffering of others is not a concept they are able to comprehend.

You may remember people responding to the death of a loved one by shutting down. For whatever reason, they do not cope and much of their responsibilities go undone. They disengage with day-to-day life. Anyone in their household would lack much of the attention, care and interaction that they have come to expect or would be appropriate. This leaves them struggling to understand the loss and also the reaction of their loved one.

In every instance, the parent, elder or close loved ones are role models for youth. These adults may not realize how important it is to process grief and regain an emotionally healthy functioning after a period of time. Children will model after any behavior they witness whether intentionally or without consideration.

Why did we go this far back to explain grief? Because this is where the layers begin.

What would be the one most important factor in how you embrace and cope with the death of a loved one? What you believe about the afterlife.


Challenges, Turmoil and Disruption

Moving forward in life requires a healthy amount of motivation, intent and coping strategies. If every negative event were to stop all progress, you would not get very far. Your goals and dreams would be continuously pushed back. This may lead to frustration. You would question the quality of your life because you never really get what you want.

The purpose of this post is to encourage you to develop some effective coping skills and a deep sense of faith. Every day experiences do matter but the problem is when you are derailed by them and you don’t get back to your actual chart. The small stuff delays attaining real progress.

It is this continual and repeated frustration that you have sanctioned just by allowing insignificant matters to cloud your divine existence. Keep going. Acknowledge the things that happen each day but still place them in perspective. You truly have better things to do.

Effective coping involves many working parts that create a whole.

  1. Deal in reality. People have a tendency to blow things out of proportion. If your life is a series of crisis situations, there is something wrong with your perspective. Either that or you thrive on drama and turn even simple matters into crisis situations.
  2. Look at the situation without emotion. Deal with the facts and be real about the impact each event has on your life. Some things will bring inconvenience but little turmoil if you are coping effectively.
  3. Understand that you are intended to learn from this. If you build a wall, nothing will be gained. This event will be assigned too much power and much of your true intent will be lost. Rather than a straight line to eternity, you will have to duck, dodge and maneuver around all of your barriers. This wastes precious time.
  4. It is ok to acknowledge what has occurred and continue to move forward but only if there is a minimal impact. If it is a big event that needs your attention, you must take the time to cope and process it. Being avoidant or ignorant is not suggested.
  5. Denial is not recommended either. Brushing off a significant event is not appropriate. Try your best to assign this event with the proper amount of significance. Many people do not realize when they are using denial as an ineffective coping strategy. It may be necessary to work through emotional problems in order to get a reality-based perspective on future events. If you tend to be overly emotional and catastrophize things, denial is a significant problem of yours.

Focus on what is real and what is the actual impact on your life. You have many learned behaviors which influence your current coping strategies. You learned them through life experience and watching other people attempt to cope. This is also when the dysfunction begins. If an elder copes with alcohol, you may do the same. If someone gets violent during stressful times, this may also become one of your tendencies.  If a parent blows things out of proportion, that is your role model to also overreact.

What you didn’t learn from your family, friends and other loved ones you picked up some ineffective coping through trial and error. You may react in a certain way and the problem resolves. That teaches you that this one strategy “works.” It may not be positive or productive but you may start to rely upon it in all matters. Then if this one strategy doesn’t work, you will try something else and see how far that gets you. In this manner you will develop your bank of coping strategies; some good, some bad.

Now that you are seeking spiritual success it is time to take a realistic look at how you manage stress and what your current coping strategies are. These are a few suggestions:

  1. Be honest. You don’t have to remember any lies if you always tell the truth. This is living genuinely.
  2. Do your best. Successful behavior builds upon itself and you gain a higher vibration because you are making an honest effort. The Universe responds to this.
  3. Do not intentionally harm anyone. You always want to know about sins and damnation, be considerate of your interactions with others. How are you impacting anyone in your world? Make sure you are empathetic and accept responsibility when you make a mistake.
  4. Be independent. Accept responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Be wary of blaming others when you have acted with disregard. This is not honest or genuine.
  5. Always be ready to forgive. Some acts are serious and you may not be able to forgive what has happened. You may be able to release any grudge or vengeance and still move forward. Forgiveness is what you do to heal your own soul. It is not completely about the person you are trying to forgive.

Easier said than done! This is a good place to start. Once you begin to gain positive, effective coping strategies you will continue to build upon this solid foundation. Living honestly is always good. This will increase your vibration and bring more success to you personally.

We ask that you have no one to blame but this also means that no one else may take credit for your success.

It’s a Serious Job

Your reaction to this life and the chart you came here to complete is a lot like your view on hard work. If you know how to put some effort into what you do each day you may be less disillusioned by the work you need to complete the goals of your life chart. If you dislike hard work, you probably also dislike putting effort into this earth life.

There are benefits to working hard at your job, career or occupation. Hopefully you earn a decent wage, you have room for advancement and perhaps a raise. Maybe not. The incentive would be less if you feel like your job is a dead end and will not adequately reward you with money, incentives or a good retirement.

Think of your life chart as a business that you started from inception to being fully operational. What you get back is completely dependent upon what you put into it.

  1. If you lack drive, your business will show it.
  2. If you don’t fully comprehend how to run this business, you may leave some goals incomplete. Successes that are haphazard pale in comparison to achievements won realistically and with intent.
  3. If you position this business in a dark and negative area, your opportunities for success will be limited. Maybe your first location is where you are now in life but you will be expected to relocate to brighter more positive areas when possible.
  4. If you have a narrow window for business, you will not invest the proper amount of time into success. No one may step in and meet your goals for you.
  5. If you are only prepared to do half the job, there may be no real benefit to having this business.
  6. If you blame other people or situations for failure, you are not accepting responsibility for what you are doing. You must be able to stand alone and be successful.
  7. If you invest superficial amounts of time and effort the business may not be capable of supporting you and your needs. Your ability to meet your goals requires commitment.
  8. If your business relies very heavily on the nearby businesses and is not fully independent you are not being completely responsible. Your business must be stand-alone but you may position it near other businesses to improve the benefits to everyone nearby.
  9. If you are running a shady business, your gains will not be credible. Goals would be left incomplete.
  10. Sufficient earning, growth and development require constant awareness. Building a successful business takes effort and a willingness to explore. All of your lessons don’t arrive at your door neatly packaged. You need an open mind, faith and drive.

Now that we have recommended you put some effort into building your spirituality and making sufficient progress on your chart we will give you some insider information. Sometimes, all it takes is to relax and get out of your own way.

If you relax you are releasing any blocks, barriers and previous damage. You are ALLOWING your life to come to you. It is possible to keep an open mind and meet each experience as they arise. Any effort may be channeled into allowing life to happen and seeking the answers contained within.

You must also get out of your own way. Release any judgement, opinion and preconceived thinking. Allow life to teach you and be open to new meaning. You don’t know everything and your life is wrought with learned knowledge that you need to replace, release or improve. Meet each day with renewed curiosity. There is always something to learn from even the smallest event. Embrace this discovery and be eager to know more.

This is in the simplest terms; give it some effort, relax and allow life to flow to you and get out of your own way. By actively doing these three steps you are able and willing to learn. Make progress in the areas that you set before you when you wrote this chart. We did not overstate the need to be a “business owner.” It does take work, constant learning and making adjustments to improve your progress. It isn’t easy and it does take continuous monitoring. Your success in life is as important as earning your wage. It is a serious job and you are the only one who can do it.

Eternity Requires Some Effort

There are some strong emotions about your imperfection in Heaven. You had hoped that all of your stressors and turmoil would magically dissolve once you left this earth life. Now you find out that the issues that are on your plate will either be dealt with in life or requiring to be dealt with after death.  This is a powerful blow.

It seems that most of you were just going to white-knuckle this life and enjoy a peaceful retirement in Heaven. Your disappointment is palpable.

When you are residing on the Other Side, you wrote your charts in order to learn and grow. It is the density of this earth environment that has seriously interfered with your motivation and intent. When writing the chart for this life you were eager to challenge yourself with a broad variety of experiences. In fact, you may have charted too much conflict and contrast and your guides, Ascended Masters or God may have asked you to delete some of it. They understood that earth life will push you down, strip you of divine energy and oppress you. You were the eager student who was cautioned against completing too many projects for extra credit. The higher energy beings tried to keep your goals manageable.


  • In your perfect state on the Other Side you charted this earth life to challenge yourself to learn and expand. You focused on areas that you were lacking in experience.
  • Any issues and turmoil left at the end of your earth life carried over in Heaven. You still have to meet the challenge, process it, learn from it and embrace the knowledge in your expanding soul.
  • Then, in your perfect state, you chart another earth life with different experiences in order to challenge yourself and grow.

Your assumption was that you just needed to get to the end of your human existence and retire peacefully. Your human body and brain do not want to work so hard. This, however, was integral to the challenge. It would be less of a challenge if you weren’t dealing with the darkness and negativity of earth.

It is like attending college at 1000 ft. below sea level. How easy is it to read, focus on someone talking, organize your homework and make adjustments after the lesson? The pressure is seriously limiting. You may attempt to drop out of school since it is so difficult. The problem is your life, experiences and soul growth is necessary. You cannot drop out of this earth-school. You are here until you cross back over.

Any attempt to avoid learning ends in automatic failure. That is having serious dysfunction at the end of life and carrying all of it over. Your desire to skip the difficult things is not productive. You may choose to live your afterlife wrought with trouble and have no interest in further ascension. You may spend eternity over eating, abusing substances, abusing or being abused, acting out in anger/ violence, immaturity, impulsiveness… This seems so disappointing doesn’t it? You had wanted so much more for your soul. The ideal existence you wanted for yourself was so much more joyous and serene. Now, you want to opt out?

This is the time to rethink your perspective on life. Eternity requires more effort.

“Being God, for God” is NOT simple or easy. You understood this prior to this incarnation.

Imperfect and Still in Heaven


It seems to be unbelievable that once you have crossed over to the Other Side that you would be anything but perfect. It may be hard to comprehend that you may have the same limitations and struggles that you have in this life.

Ideally, you chart this life for further experience in certain areas. You want to learn more and there are specific events that you want to experience in order to expand your knowledge. Each of these contrasting events is intended to teach you lessons. Then, there may be further events that will build upon this knowledge and teach you more depth about the topic. This cycle of learning regarding this one area of life may continue in sequence or be broken up into separate events over time.

The entire learning process for this particular lesson or series of lessons are intended to be met, dealt with, placed in proper perspective and woven into the fabric that is you. Each event was never intended to stop you from functioning or proceeding with future learning. If you are stalled by one event, you are not accomplishing what you came to earth for. You have ineffective coping and you must learn to process any conflict or contrast appropriately. If you cannot get through these earlier lessons, you will not successfully complete your chart.

An example may be helpful.

You begin using alcohol at 15 years of age most likely due to some dysfunction in the home. Probably someone who uses alcohol and causes turmoil or at the very least is a role model of ineffective coping for you. There are the usual milestones of school, graduation, first relationship, selecting a career… If your alcohol use significantly interferes with life you may not progress to high school graduation. Any relationships will be significantly impaired by your dysfunction and alcoholic behavior. You may be in a relationship and actually live with that person but it will not be emotionally healthy. You may have children but they will succumb to the dysfunction as well.

Fast forward to age 60. You are still abusing alcohol. You have tenuous relationships with your family. You may have had many abusive relationships with the opposite sex. Your children will either be lost to you, abusive, troubled or inappropriately codependent with you. After all this time, you have experienced bad health, legal problems, money problems, trouble keeping a job, car accidents and property damage.

Optimally, you would have beaten your alcohol addiction at any time before the age of 60. After that you would have begun to heal and reverse some of the damage that you suffered. You may rebuild some relationships, find a steady job, resolve your legal troubles and re-enter the lives of your children and grandchildren. This resolve would require a lot of work on your part. It isn’t magic. Just because you no longer drink alcohol does not mean that everything will realign into positive, hopeful and healthy behavior. Much of the damage must be undone.

You need to be healthy then rebuild your life from the inside out. Think of all of the experiences that you missed. The ages from 15 to 60 were spent abusing alcohol and missing volumes of intended lessons. Emotionally you are still 15 years old. There really is no way to turn back the clock and experience the life that you intended. At whatever age someone stops abusing alcohol, they could begin to experience some lessons and recover some life experiences. If this person does not stop drinking, very little will change for the better. Much of the illness, turmoil and dysfunction will get worse with organic changes in the body and brain.

Tragically, some elders who stop abusing alcohol much too late and will suffer so much depravity that life is mired in medical illness, severe mental impairment and loneliness because many bridges were damaged beyond repair.

If you were to abuse alcohol until death, you will enter the afterlife still craving it. There is treatment on the Other Side but you have to want to change. This is one example. You may still indulge in any negative behavior even though you have returned to spirit. Your life in Heaven would heal over time as long as you are seeking help and making the necessary changes. The treatment process is similar to what you may experience here in life. You would improve at your own pace and become stronger emotionally. At a certain point in healing you may also choose to help others as well. Eventually you may resolve your dysfunction and continue forward focusing on positive challenges, hobbies, higher education, spiritual advancement or any area of interest. After you have done the work you would experience Heaven more like what you would expect; unlimited joy, love and peace.

You may think of many different situations that would fit into this cycle. The earlier you reverse any damaging behavior, illness or dysfunction will help you to continue along your chart and live your intended existence. You came here to challenge yourself and overcome troubled times. You didn’t come here to fail. No one would be able to enter life intending to fail unless you are here to teach others through contrast. Do not assume that you are here to fail so others may learn from your mistakes. Always assume that you came here to overcome. Even if you were here to model negative behavior, you must still choose to heal and travel in the Light again. This is the best lesson for you and anyone else involved.