When “Layers” Attack!

The release of layers is complicated and emotionally trying. The average person will resist bringing up any upsetting layers and prefer to squash it back down. Out of sight, out of mind. But, this does not heal anyone. This is only a band aid which works only for a specific amount of time. Usually when you are seriously ill, have just been in an auto accident and your favorite aunt is in the hospital is when these buried layers rise up out of control. Why? Because your defenses are down. Your usual coping strategies are extended beyond their effectiveness. This may be “the straw that broke the camel’s back.” You are tapped out emotionally and one more thing happens.

How do you handle this? This is individual. There are a variety of responses which depend upon how you cope and handle stress.

You may:

  1. Lose it. Turn completely inward and shutter yourself inside.
  2. Act out. This may be any avenue as well. Abusing substances, unprotected sex and/or promiscuity, driving recklessly, burning bridges of supportive people or extensive binges of any type of behavior.
  3. Develop thoughts of self-harm or harm to others.
  4. Gain/lose weight.
  5. Neglect personal hygiene and also neglect to properly care for your child(ren).
  6. You may lose your job or get behind financially.
  7. You may also have trouble with law enforcement or other legal problems.

Your response to being completely overwhelmed varies in length as well. If you have better coping strategies you may recover in a shorter amount of time. If you have behavioral problems, a dysfunctional life and limited insight, you may suffer for much longer.

Then, you stuff everything back down because you actually don’t know the content of this extensive upset. You understood that many things went wrong at the same time and you had difficulty working through it. You just don’t know that much of that anguish was the upset that you have stuffed for years. Your layers broke through your usual defenses.

So how do you actually release layers and let them go without recapturing them? These are some suggestions:

  1. Find a deep meditative state and allow whatever comes to the surface so you may face it, work through it and let it go. Use this option daily. The most difficult part is to actually allow your feelings to surface. You are used to pushing them out of your mind and that becomes your first response.
  2. Go to counseling. This is a big step if you choose this route as one of your options. Things brought out in counseling are painful and may overwhelm you for a time but the counselor will also help you process these emotions. Sometimes people go to counseling for a period of time then take a break to normalize again, and then go back.
  3. Take prescription medications. Every emotion is a chemical reaction in your brain. A form of depression is an imbalance of neurotransmitters. This will not resolve without prescription medications. Some people have to take this type of med every day in order to be emotionally stable. Another type of depression is a reaction to life stressors. Depression is only one example of the need for prescription medications. There are many types of mental illness and a majority are improved with medications. God believes in Western Medicine. Some of our earthly treatments where originally developed in Heaven and provided to healers on this plane to be developed for our use. It is like treating a fever. Medications are specific to intent and help to heal you. Breaking a fever may make you better just like achieving chemical balance may make you think, feel and function better.
  4. Join a support group. This refers to some of the best advice; seek people of like mind. A vast amount of understanding and healing may happen in a group of people who know exactly how you think and feel. Some people have resolved more of their issues and they help guide those who are less advanced in the healing process. It is structured so that you receive support, new information and reassurance. The purpose is to share and gain insight from those who have similar problems.
  5. Get a healing. Any form of healing which you prefer. Reiki, reflexology, chakra opening and balancing, acupuncture, Quantum Touch, Shamanic Healing, Theta Healing or any other form which resonates with you. Sometimes word of mouth is spirit’s way of giving you hints. If a friend or coworker mentions something they tried or they had heard someone else very happy with some service, you may have been meant to hear this.
  6. Journaling is a good way to open up some doors that you have closed for a long time. You may start out on a very benign topic and then tangent to something more personal. God and spirit have a way of bringing about some thoughts and feelings about something they want you to consider. The challenge is to follow this topic whether it is painful, upsetting or makes you angry. Do your best to avoid stuffing these emotions again.
  7. Prayer starts as a conversation with a higher power about anything you wish. Then through introspection, insight and Divine guidance some issues may be brought out. Trust that you are being guided by loving, supportive and protective beings in order to help you heal. Faith is important. Believe that you have goals to reach deep into your being to connect with your genuine self. These destructive layers are obscuring the beautiful, spiritual being that you truly are. Know for sure that any upset or emotional pain is all worth it eventually when you stand strong, healthy and independent.
  8. Use meditations that seek and release emotional upset. Buy them online, at a music store or use YouTube. Some are called meditations, hypnosis or subliminal. There are guided ones where a person directs you how to proceed and there are ones that are just music. Use the ones that resonate with you. If you have a positive result from a particular one it may work well to keep using it or try other ones from the same company.
  9. Build up your confidence, self-esteem and independence. This is done through a variety of sources. Books, self-help tapes and workbooks, support groups, setting short and long term goals and counseling are a few suggestions. Your self-talk has a lot to do with how you feel about your strength and confidence. Daily affirmations are a positive step.
  10. Develop a strong support system. This is important. It helps to have people supporting you and understanding what you would like to accomplish in your life. You may need a pep talk, someone who will listen to you vent or someone to acknowledge the improvements that you have made. Trying to find your strength is more difficult by yourself. Choose people who are always supportive and able to give you some feedback. It is a bonus if they love you, like a close friend or family member.
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